Tolerance

Few days ago, I went to a shopping mall with my housemates. We decided to treat ourselves with a shopping trip because the mid-term examination had just ended. We went there by bus even though it was time consuming because it was cheaper than other transportations like taxi and KTM. After two hours (yes you got that right) we arrived at the shopping mall and we filled our grumbling stomachs at Fish Market Restaurant.

When we were on the way to the cinema we saw a crowd of people in front of the main hall of the shopping mall. We pushed ourselves through the crowd to see what was going on. We saw a bitter quarrel between two men. What we were able to catch from the fight was the old man shouting, “Either you pay me a compensation of RM199 or you end up being charged by the police!” An auntie standing beside me helped to clarify the whole incident to us. A young man had broken the wineglass that belonged to the old man. The young man was refused to pay him because he thought that it was not his fault. Shortly after that, the security guard appeared and the two men were asked to settle the problem in the office.

I was wondering that why they couldn’t settle the argument calmly. Sometimes it is very difficult to deal with different kinds of people. Different people have different beliefs, attitudes and behaviours. Therefore, I think they should be more tolerant and patient in order to live in harmony. I always remember this when I have arguments with the people around me and try to reconcile it in a good way.

My principle is such that once we notice a problem we have to settle it immediately. Any misunderstanding will result in an unforeseeable consequence. In our daily life we encounter different types of people. Some of them might be very kind and generous while some might not. Hence, it is very important for us to learn how to get on well with people to avoid any fights. 

Ad populum Fallacy of False Dilemma

A limited number of options (usually two) are given. It is very deceptive because it plays on the fear that everyone has about making the wrong decision.

But in reality there are more options than the two that are stated. In the case above, there are more options available than stated such as negotiation, apologization, and paying half and etc.

Written by Chan Mei Wui  1091102754